How to Talk to Anyone

The deepest craving in every human being is the desire to be appreciated.”

we are too busy in our own worlds to notice or appreciate others!

Many people tend to think of conversation as a verbal thing – but deep, true social connection actually starts way before a word has been spoken.

But what we are usually trying to communicate is the simple message: I see you. I understand. We’re on the same page.

conversation is not just an opportunity for you to say your piece – it’s a collaborative social exercise.

the conversation will be a flop if it doesn’t feel right!

“The deepest craving in every human being is the desire to be appreciated.”

many people make the mistake of thinking that being a good conversationalist is about saying intelligent or funny things, or being a fascinating person. Though this helps, what really makes people feel connected to you is synchronicity – are you on their wavelength? Do you get them? This is an emotional connection rather than a verbal or intellectual one.

rule of three states that we should never say three declaratives in a row without breaking them up with a question or qualifier. Again, this allows us to talk with people and not at them or to them.

Conversations usually go wrong for one reason: we are too busy in our own worlds to notice or appreciate others!