Please do not bully yourself into doing care tasks. Shame is a horrible long-term motivator.
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you feel good when your home is clean and laundry is folded? Ask yourself why.
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What messages were you given about domestic care tasks and the meaning behind them?
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meaning assigned to a care task was probably given to you by someone else. Take a moment to think about who it may have been.
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You deserve kindness and love regardless of how good you are at care tasks
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Now imagine what we could do if we were kind to ourselves?
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with the view of care tasks as morally neutral, rejecting shame and perfectionism, you can begin to explore ways of caring for your body and space that best serve you
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When you view care tasks as moral, not being good at them means you are failing, you’re unsuccessful, you’re not a valid adult, and you are a bad partner or parent.
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When barriers to functioning make completing care tasks difficult, a person can experience an immense amount of shame
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Quit beating yourself up for having a skill deficit when what you really have is a support deficit.