Introducing Psychology of Relationships

Only you can heal yourself

One of the oldest human needs is having someone to wonder where you are when you don’t come home at night.

people bring needs into their relationships that have not been communicated to the other person. This in turn conjures up unspoken expectations of their partner, and assumptions about the relationship itself and how it is going to be, a situation that provides an instant recipe for conflict

Forget the idea of finding one person who will complete you.
• Being passionate about someone means more than having sex.
• Accepting someone with all their faults is the key to loving them.

To know someone fully and deeply, to understand their emotional make-up, and their positive attributes, as well as their foibles and fears, usually takes years.

only person who can complete you is yourself. Nobody else, no matter how loving, understanding or caring they are, can fill the emotional void inside you,

affection, respect and validation

success in relationships almost invariably correlates with the amount of sustained attention, effort and, occasionally, self-sacrifice that each partner is prepared to bring to it.

the more you put into relationships, both in terms of effort and understanding, the more you get out of them.

When couples are suddenly able to see what lies beneath their ‘locked-in’ behaviour patterns it can mark a turning point in their relationship.