Bruce Springsteen

The eye-to-eye democracy of real adult love struck fear and insecurity deep in my heart. Meanwhile I could feel my life clock ticking on the things I wanted to do and what I wanted to become.

the unkind word, the raised voice, the torrent of what you “really” think.

You signed up for marriage, not a lifelong self-improvement course!

Too many couples fight repetitively, resolving not much of anything, or one or both of you backs off, so you begin living “alone together.”

We forget that the person we’re excoriating or stonewalling is the one we care about most in our lives.

Over three decades, thousands of mental health professionals and corporate coaches have trained in the model of therapy I’ve created, called Relational Life Therapy, and countless individuals and couples have benefited.

We look at our partner through the wrong end of a telescope, and they seem pitiful or overwhelming or both

The good news is that the love is still there. The bad news is that it’s stored in parts of your brain, body, and nervous system that, in those flash moments, you no longer inhabit

You and me is great when you are confronting a tiger, but less so when you are confronting your spouse, your boss, or your child.

The central question I ask myself during a therapy session is simply this one: Which part of you am I talking to?