How to Find Yourself

There comes a point in many people’s lives when they feel quite keenly that they have absolutely no idea who they are.

“Who am I? And what do I really want out of this life?”

Self-discovery can’t happen unless we think that our identity is something valuable and worth not only investigating, but caring for and cherishing.

When you know yourself, you’re happier. Plain and simple. This is because you don’t spend effort and time on avoiding or denying who you are. You can relax and be open. When you can express who you are and what you want, other people can see you, and you are more likely to actually get the things you most need. You can let go of dull feelings of alienation and actually start to enjoy yourself—enjoy your self. You can gain immense satisfaction out of just being you. How great is that?

You see, the little things add up. In a real way, we are nothing more than the sum of all the tiny actions we take day in and day out. The small choices.

Many people put off the dream of delving more deeply into who they are because, on some level, they know that doing so will completely turn their world upside down.

You’ve probably heard of people who make massive life improvements only to find that the people they thought of as their friends actually preferred it when that person has low self-esteem and didn’t achieve much

The next time you read the news or scroll through social media or watch a TV ad or flip through a magazine, ask yourself what core beliefs are being reinforced, and why. Notice how you feel. If you’re feeling lost, a little pessimistic, and unsure who you are and what you want, you can rest assured that at least some of that feeling has been introduced to you by the media. It sounds sinister, but it’s true: the ideal customer, reader, app-user (or even voter) is one who feels bad about themselves, and who doesn’t really know what they want. Why? Because these are the people who can be told what they want.

But all the while the message is still being felt: you’re not enough just as you are. So you march onward with the mission to solve a problem that was entirely manufactured in the first place. You feel incomplete, unworthy, dissatisfied.

fter all, a completely satisfied and healthy individual is not easily manipulated into buying things they don’t need