Zari Ballard

She may not have emotions but she certainly understands them.

the pattern of behaviors on both sides that gives the pathological narcissist an ongoing thrill, making her feel alive, in charge, and unstoppable. Her partner’s instability and pain turns her on.

Victims are seduced, discarded, and then seduced again... over and over and over… in a vicious cycle of abuse that never ends because, for a narcissist, it never gets old.

I think that a narcissist lies (all the time) because it’s an easy way to devastate the recipient and because lying allows the narcissist/psychopath to recreate himself at will (and on a whim), thus creating an environment where she can always be giving himself props for getting away with something.

In most relationships involving a narcissistic partner, the length of time from the N’s return after a silent treatment to the point where she appears, once again, to ramp up the chaos in preparation to go silent again will gradually grew shorter and shorter.

Narcissists do not care and, in fact, enjoy the suffering of their partners because it literally makes them feel alive.

She knows EXACTLY what to say and how to push your buttons and how to get you to start begging for no reason at all.

You must understand that the crazier she makes you feel, the better she feels about you, about herself, about her whole existence. All you’re ever going to feel is crazy.

You begin to feel that your ability to act normally is being very methodically (and passive-aggressively) “conditioned away” by this crazy woman that you love.

She has, in fact studied your behaviors very deliberately throughout the relationship in order to use them to her advantage. To your narcissist lover, you become a character study…a person of interest….an opportunity. She will do whatever it takes to get what she wants while destroying you in the process.